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As the percentage of males on our college campuses continues to
decline, many observers are finally beginning to ask questions.
Much of the discussion has focused on the fact that boys at all
levels K-12 have fallen seriously behind their female
counterparts, and how our schools are not meeting boys' needs.
This discussion of males' educational problems--particularly the
problems of low-income and minority males--is long overdue, and
boys' sagging educational performance is the main reason for the
increasing disappearance of male students from our college
campuses.
However, there is another, unacknowledged reason why some males
don't go to college--rampant anti-male feminism has made college
campuses a place where many males feel unwanted and unwelcome.
To use a feminist term, our universities have become "hostile
environments" for young men. To illustrate, let's look at one
campus--the University of California at Los Angeles, 1999-2001.
Sensationalized lies about men--what dissident feminist
Christina Hoff Sommers and others call "Hate Statistics"--were
an integral part of the campus culture. The Women's Resource
Center (later renamed the Center for Women and Men), the
Clothesline Project and others publicized discredited academic
frauds like "one in four college women has been the victim of
rape or attempted rape" and "domestic violence is the leading
cause of injury to women aged 15 to 44."
Worse, such statistics were repeated ad infinitum and ad nauseam
by the campus newspaper, the Daily Bruin , and also by
both professors and students. The message behind the lies was
clear--men are so powerful and despicable, and women are so
helpless and victimized, that men had better not dare to
complain about anything.
This hostile attitude towards males is manifest in the classroom
as well. I recall, for example, my Latin American folklore
class, taught by a woman whom we'll call Ms. Smith. Ms. Smith is
a kind, gentle, elderly lady whose bigotry rings as loud and
clear as that of any stereotypical racist Southern cracker. The
sometimes subtle, sometimes slap in the face prejudice which
males endured in her class is typical of what occurs in many
modern university classes.
Early in the semester Ms. Smith informed the class that all
folklore was widely believed to be a code of misogyny that was
developed and employed by men to suppress women. Ms. Smith did
say she considered this to be a slight exaggeration, yet
whenever a folktale contained a negative portrayal of a woman,
it was cited as evidence of the rampant misogyny in men's dark
souls. What Ms. Smith never explained was why this
"misogynistic" folklore contained far more negative portrayals
of men than of women.
Ms. Smith also informed us that folklore was largely invented by
women, because it was women who had the "long, tiresome, boring
jobs" and thus the motivation to invent it. Unanswered were two
questions. One, why would we say that folklore was misogynistic
if it had, in fact, largely been invented by women? Two, did we
really imagine that the men of that era--or at least 98% of
them--did not also have "long, tiresome, boring" jobs?
Ms. Smith wrung her hands over the stigma, enshrined in some
Spanish folklore, against romantic or sexual activity by Spanish
women whose men had gone off to fight the invading and occupying
Moors. This was, she said, another example of the oppressive
social controls which men placed upon women. What Ms. Smith
never mentioned was the nature of the oppressive social controls
which made 12 and 13 year-old Spanish boys march obediently off
to war for years at a time, many of them never to return.
Most of the males sat in the back of Ms. Smith's class, an
arrangement which started to feel more and more like the back of
the bus. The females in front were fully engaged, enjoying the
class and its anti-male tales. Not surprisingly, many of the
males were disengaged, and seemed to be there simply to put in
their time.
One day, after an hour or so discussing tale after tale where
Ms. Smith concluded that the men involved were always wrong or
evil or cruel or stupid and the women were always right and good
and kind and smart, Ms. Smith began softly describing a soothing
tale of a father and his daughter setting off through the woods
to go to the big city.
"The father....and his daughter....rode together... as they went
through the beautiful Spanish countryside," Ms. Smith said
softly.
I sat back and closed my eyes.
"They...were on their way to the big city....the daughter had
never seen the city before.....she was happy that her father was
taking her..."
I imagined a special, loving, father-daughter bond.
"..and then.....he rapes her."
Jolted, I sat up. A male in the back of the classroom pushed his
heavy book off of the table and it made a loud, crashing sound.
An accident? Or the only protest he could make?
I did sometimes protest in Ms. Smith's class and others, but a
6'2" male confronting a female educator about her bigotry,
however politely, is quickly perceived as a bully. In addition,
tension and arguing make the days and semesters long and hard,
and there were times when it was easier to tune out, as so many
other males had done. Some male students have told me that they
had been retaliated against at grade time for speaking out
against misandry. I never had this experience, and Ms. Smith did
grade me fairly.
In Spanish language class we were reading and discussing Snow
White when a properly PC-educated male student raised his hand
and lamented the poor, womanly lot of Snow White, "forced" to
cook and wash dishes while the dwarfs "did nothing." Naturally I
raised my hand and explained that mining (the dwarfs' trade) was
a hard, dangerous job which required a lot of sacrifice. I was
immediately fighting a battle against the male professor and 10
other students (the usual odds one faces when confronting
misandry in our universities) but I defended those seven dwarfs
the best I could.
One woman, an older student obviously infused with decades of
anti-male bigotry, smiled contemptuously and explained that
whatever the dwarfs did, they still didn't do housework and were
thus morally indicted. In her world, whatever men do, whatever
their special sacrifices and their burdens, all that matters is
who washed the dishes last night.
Part of the reason it is difficult and unpleasant to be a male
college student today is that anti-male bigotry pops up by
surprise all the time in the most unlikely of places. For
example, on my Portuguese final we were presented with some
disputes and were expected to discuss possible solutions to them
in Portuguese. A couple of the problems were between married
couples, and in both situations there was a clear person who was
right and a clear person who was wrong. The reader can guess the
gender of both offenders without my assistance.
In answering one of them, about a husband who was oppressing his
wife by not "doing his share" around the house, I explained that
numerous studies have shown that, when all work--both housework
and breadwinning--is considered, American men are doing at least
as much in their households as women are. I also noted that I
was unhappy with this negative portrayal of men.
To her credit, the professor graded me fairly and responded to
my objection. She explained that my complaint was not valid
because men's control of society and women were so vast that a
man's complaints about anti-male prejudice paled in meaning
beside it. In other words, it's OK to say whatever you want
about men, no matter how unfair, cruel, or inaccurate, because
all the man-hate in the world could never amount to more than
tugging on Superman's cape.
Even by the professor's own PC logic, however, her argument
fails because many of the males in the class were black or
Latino. On the PC left's strict race/gender hierarchy, she
should have at least shown sensitivity to those minority males.
After all, their maleness is something to despise but their
color is somewhat redeeming.
Perhaps the professor still imagined herself to be "oppressed"
even in relation to those minority males. In reality, this
white, middle-class female teacher enjoyed many advantages which
even white middle class males did not have, such as a longer,
healthier, safer life, and more choices as to how to live it.
While at UCLA I made money on the side doing carpentry and
construction work. After a while I noticed a strange
phenomenon--I looked forward to the work and I did not look
forward to going to school. How was it possible that I looked
forward to hard, hazardous labor but had little desire to spend
my days comfortably sitting in class?
One reason probably was that I enjoyed building and creating.
Camille Paglia calls carpentry and construction work "male
poetry." While I don't want to idealize the work, she definitely
has a point.
Perhaps more importantly, when working I could feel valued as a
decent human being instead of as a lesser who was always
expected to apologize for himself. Doing construction work I
endured no bigotry arising quickly and unexpectedly out of what
had seemed to be a pleasant conversation or lesson, and no
verbal slaps to the face. It somehow seemed much more peaceful
and harmonious.
While on my knees hammering thousands of nails into a scorching
hot asphalt shingle roof I often reflected upon my higher
education. I thought of the smug professors who teach contempt
for men in the massive, red brick buildings assembled brick by
brick by men who risked their lives to build them. According to
men's advocate Warren Farrell, author of The Myth of Male Power,
even today "virtually no large office building or bridge is
built without a man dying in its construction, whether as a
lumberjack, trucker, welder, roofer or construction worker." I
wondered how many had been killed or maimed in the construction
of UCLA. Or did anyone even bother to keep track of such a
thing?
I and a friend from UCLA who sometimes worked with me often
commented on how strange it was that men--many of whom put their
safety on the line to extract, refine, deliver, construct,
produce, and build the infrastructure and wealth upon which this
society is based--are treated with such contempt by our
educators. How strange that the group which makes these
sacrifices (including the three million mostly male workers who
the Occupational Safety and Health Administration says are
injured on the job each year) is derided as seamlessly
"privileged," while those whose jobs rarely put them in harm's
way are always the "oppressed." Feminists once correctly
criticized our society for not properly acknowledging the
massive contributions of women in child rearing and housework.
Today it is men's contributions which are ignored.
On one job we were building a loft in a large warehouse. Because
of the warehouse's peculiar conditions we had to stand under the
loft and support it without it being secure. As my friend and I
struggled under the weight of the loft, he smiled and joked,
"you know, if this were to come crashing down on us right now,
my last wish would be that one of my beloved professors could be
standing here right by my side as it happens."
In the library after Ms. Smith's class on the day the student
dropped the book in protest, I pondered how sad and unfair it
was that he and other young men had been branded, stigmatized,
and marginalized in the institution which was supposed to
enlighten them and set fire to their minds.
I thought of the feminist academics (female and male) who poured
their derision upon them, knowing that their students could not
effectively fight back. I thought of the timid male professors
who were so content with their own careers that they were
perfectly willing to allow 18 year-old boys to be beat up on
rather than jeopardize their own comfort by speaking out. And I
asked myself a question which hundreds of thousands of male
college students often ask themselves:
"What am I even doing here?"
This is a greatly expanded version of an
article which first appeared in SheThinks (11/13/02). SheThinks
is only responsible for the version of the article which
appeared on their website, which can be seen at
Why Males
Don't Go to College. The article is
reprinted with the permission of SheThinks.org, a publication of
the Independent Women’s Forum.
Glenn Sacks writes about gender issues from the male perspective.
He can be reached at Glenn@GlennSacks.com.
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