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Tyler Perry’s new movie Daddy’s Little
Girls tells an important truth about African-American fathers. The film,
which reached number 5 on the Media By Numbers list of top movies, is the story
of Monty, a blue collar African-American father played by Idris Elba. Monty
fights long and hard in family court to be a father to his three adoring little
girls.
Today African-American men are often
excoriated--most recently by presidential candidate Barack Obama--for being
irresponsible towards their children. Yet we don’t hear nearly enough about men
like Monty. These dads cherish their kids and, like Monty, often find that the
family law system prevents them from playing a meaningful role in their lives.
In the movie, Monty is raising his three
girls when his ex-wife, who has drug and personality problems, decides to demand
full custody. As is typical, she goes to family court and wins, and Monty is
given only occasional visitation with his girls. He decides to fight this and,
with the help of a lady lawyer friend working pro bono, gets his daughters away
from their abusive mother and back with him. Of the movie’s entire storyline,
the only unusual part is the last one—most fathers cannot get shared custody of
their children, and are relegated to being mere visitors in their children’s
lives.
New research on minority inner city fathers
demonstrates the harm these family court norms are doing to African-American
children. A just-released Boston College study found that when nonresident
fathers are involved in their adolescent children’s lives, the incidence of
substance abuse, violence, crime, and truancy decreases markedly. Most of the
families in the study, which was published in the journal Child Development, are
low-income African-American and Hispanic families. The study's lead author,
professor Rebekah Levine Coley, says the study found involved nonresident
fathers to be “an important protective factor for adolescents."
The study also found that when teens begin to
slide towards delinquency, nonresident fathers increase their involvement in
response. The researchers found such involvement to be effective--the impact of
father involvement was the greatest on the kids who had previously been the most
troubled.
The new study’s findings are consistent with
a wealth of research on the positive impact of fathers. A University of Chicago
study of crime in the African-American areas of 171 cities found that
fatherlessness was the strongest predictor of violent juvenile crime. One study
published in the Journal of Research in Crime and Delinquency concluded
that fatherlessness is so predictive of juvenile crime that, as long as there is
a father in the home, children of poor and well-to-do families had similar
juvenile crime rates.
According to the National Campaign to Prevent
Teen Pregnancy, 31% of young women will become pregnant at least once during
their teen years. Anybody watching Daddy’s Little Girls would consider
the statistical likelihood that at least one of Monty’s three daughters will
become pregnant as a teenager. Research shows that the largest single factor in
preventing this is Monty.
According to a long-term study conducted in
the United States and in New Zealand and published in the journal Child
Development, a father’s presence greatly decreases the risk of teen
pregnancy. The study found that it mattered little whether the child was rich or
poor, black or white, born to a teen mother or an adult mother, or raised by
parents with functional or dysfunctional marriages. What mattered was dad.
The way to preserve the loving bonds between
these fathers and their children is to institute a legal presumption of shared
parenting in divorce or separation. Under this presumption, as long as both
parents are fit, they will each have the right to spend roughly equal physical
time with their children.
It is sad but true that there are fathers,
both black and white, who do not come through for their children. While no judge
or lawmaker can turn a disinterested parent into a caring one, much can and
should be done to break down the many barriers which separate loving fathers
from their children.
This article appeared in the Wilmington Journal
(4/6/07) and other African-American newspapers.
Mike
McCormick is the Executive Director of the American Coalition for Fathers and
Children, the world’s largest shared parenting organization.
Their
website
is
www.acfc.org.
Glenn
Sacks' columns on men's and fathers' issues have appeared in dozens of America's
largest newspapers. Glenn can be reached via his website at
www.GlennSacks.com or
via email at Glenn@GlennSacks.com.
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