Valentine's Day, once a happy
occasion for college students, has instead become a day of
rancor and discord which symbolizes the divide between men
and women on college campuses.
Much of the sour sentiment
surrounding Valentine's Day has been caused by Eve Ensler's
"holiday" campaign "V-Day: Until the Violence Stops." For
years the holiday's backers and its campus supporters in
Women's Studies departments and women's centers have
propagated a series of discredited falsehoods which
stigmatize and vilify men by wildly exaggerating the extent
of American men's violence against women. Dissident feminist
Christian Hoff Sommers calls these canards "hate
Ensler's "holiday" is now
"celebrated" on over 500 college campuses, and college
newspapers are saturated both with misandrist (anti-male)
V-Day ads and approving news stories and opinion columns.
Valentine's Day, which in the past symbolized the romantic
bonds between men and women, has been turned into a day
which further separates them.
Bringing gender reconciliation
to our college campuses will require several reforms and
changes, the first and foremost of which is the reformation
of Women's Studies.
Women's Studies began as a
legitimate attempt to recapture women's lost place in "his
story" as well as in modern culture, and to highlight the
massive yet often hidden societal contributions of women.
However, as many dissident feminists have noted, feminism
has been hijacked by a bigoted minority which has excluded
moderates and freethinkers. Women's Studies has become, to
use Lenin's term, a "transmission belt" carrying misandry
into the population at large. Both by its ability to capture
media attention and its influence on the thinking of the 2.3
million men and women who graduate college every year,
Women's Studies has helped poison American culture against
Rather than employing an entire
class of academics who are paid to research, invent, teach,
and propagate misandry, we need academic programs that
promote true scholarship. The voices of dissident feminists
and men's advocates, which are currently excluded, must be
heard. These include: the eminently sensible Cathy Young,
Camille Paglia, Wendy McElroy, Warren Farrell, and Sommers;
as well as many others.
Second, we need anti-misandrist
campus political organizations dedicated to promoting gender
reconciliation. Many feminist groups and campus women's
centers claim, at least in public, that "men are welcome
here, too." Some have even changed their names to include
men, and many now include male victims among the female
victims in their statistics sections.
However, the reality behind
their “welcome” is that men are invited to join feminist
groups so they can be taught to dislike men as much as
feminists do. Male victims are only listed and acknowledged
if the perpetrator of the crime is also male, as in child
molestation or domestic violence between gay men. Crimes
committed primarily by women, such as child abuse, parental
murder of children, and child endangerment, are ignored, as
are heterosexual male victims of domestic violence and
victims of false accusations of rape or abuse.
Campus groups which seek gender
reconciliation face many challenges. For example, the
University of New Hampshire group Stop Hating Men, formed in
February of last year, disbanded because it faced a wall of
feminist-generated hostility and stood little chance of
getting administrative approval.
On a more basic level, men need
to stand up for themselves and women need to stand up for
what is fair. Men's silence has been partly responsible for
allowing the discussion of gender issues to become a one-way
diatribe which has raged unchecked by opposing views or
Part of the reason why men have
not resisted is that many men genuinely want to help the
women they've been told they oppress. Many others are simply
chivalrous and, after thousands of years of being
conditioned to protect women, have little desire to battle
or even criticize them.
Still others have been shamed
into silence. After all, any complaints a young man might
have pale in comparison to the seething world of rape and
battery which they've been told lies behind the walls of
every college dormitory.
As a result, anti-male bigots
have committed countless campus outrages—without resistance.
In Catharine A. MacKinnon: The Rise of a Feminist Censor,
1983-1993, Christopher M. Final describes a scene which
might properly be labeled modern collegiate America's
darkest hour. According to Final, during MacKinnon's 1989
Yale commencement address she said:
"Some of the proud mothers in
the audience [are] sitting next to men who [have] battered
them. Some of the well-dressed fathers [have] sexually
abused the women who [are] now graduating."
The men's reaction to this
outrage should have been an immediate and unanimous walk
out—and every decent woman should have been right behind
them. Instead, as Final notes, "the unfairness of
[MacKinnon's] generalization did not diminish the enthusiasm
of her supporters. They led the audience in a standing
ovation for their departing heroine."
And the men—most of whom had
worked long hours for decades to support their families and
allow their daughters to attend one of the world's most
prestigious universities—did not resist, instead remaining
mute, silenced and shamed.
There are signs that college
men and women are weary of misandry and are finding common
ground. College students are increasingly looking away from
the political correctness on their anti-male campuses and
towards alternative views, largely via the Internet. While
anti-male feminists have largely succeeded in locking up the
campus media (just as they have done with much of the
mainstream media), they cannot do the same with the
Most importantly, more and more
young men and women sense that misandry benefits neither men
nor women. As one recent UCLA graduate school graduate
"I've never understood how
misinforming women helps women. The average woman is going
to have a lot of important men in her life—her husband, her
sons, her relatives, her coworkers. Do feminists really
believe women want to see these men defamed and stigmatized?
Who wins from this?"