In the midst of the Scott Peterson trial and in the wake of the
apparent murder of Lori Hacking, many are declaring the murder
of pregnant women by their male intimates to be a nationwide
crisis. The New York Post thunders "Pregnancy's Greatest
Risk: Daddy," and the Chicago Tribune says that Peterson
and Hacking represent a "violent, horrific trend." Media Life
magazine warns that the "Laci Petersons of the world [are]
becoming more common," and a recent A &E special called "Fatal
Fathers" declares that the Peterson murder is part of a
"frightening" and "much larger" phenomenon.
While one cannot fault observers for looking for culprits in
such heartbreaking situations, a few facts are in order.
According to the US Census Bureau, there are nearly 100 million
women age 18 or over in the United States. Of these, only one
out of every 75,000 are murdered by a male intimate each year.
Moreover, contrary to popular belief, the murder rate between
male and female intimates may well be equal.
According to official Department of Justice statistics, there
are about 1,300 female intimates and 500 male intimates murdered
each year, excluding those killings deemed to be in
self-defense. However, this apparent 2.6 to 1 ratio is distorted
by several blinders which greatly conceal female murders of men.
These blinders were delineated by author Warren Farrell, a high
profile expert witness in domestic violence cases.
One blinder is that women generally use less detectable methods
to murder intimates than men do. One of the most popular female
methods is to poison the victim, and these poisonings are often
mistakenly recorded as "heart attacks" or "accidents" instead of
murder.
Another blinder is that women are much more likely than men to
use "contract" killers, and contract killers often disguise
murders as accidents or suicides. Even when a paid killer is
caught and the truth is known, the DOJ counts the murder as a
"multiple-offender" killing instead of as a murder of a man by a
female intimate.
Also, men who murder women tend to come from lower income
backgrounds, whereas women who murder men are more likely to
come from middle-class backgrounds. The financial disparities
allow for women to have better legal representation, resulting
in more acquittals. According to a Justice Department study,
women are nine times as likely as men to be acquitted in a trial
for the murder of a spouse, and 10 times as likely to receive
probation instead of prison time.
Chivalry and our stubborn insistence that women are innocent and
morally superior also play a role. The wife of a murdered
husband is far less likely to be considered a serious suspect
than the husband of a murdered wife. And even when women are
suspected, they are much more likely to be seen as having acted
in self-defense.
The DOJ's statistics are further distorted by the roughly 7,800
unsolved murders of men and 1,500 unsolved murders of women
which occur each year. If one were to combine the known number
of murdered intimates with reasonable estimates of how many
unsolved murders were committed by intimates, men would comprise
over 40% of all intimate murder victims. This is consistent with
the DOJ's survey Murder in Families, which analyzed
10,000 cases and found that women make up over 40 percent of
those charged in familial murders. In fact, the total may be far
higher, since many murders of men by female intimates are not
even recorded as murders.
Men have no monopoly on violence, cruelty, or murder. Convicted
Texas killer Clara Harris ran her husband down in her Mercedes
as the fallen man's daughter begged her not to kill her father.
Convicted Texas murderess Susan Wright stabbed her husband 193
times and claimed self-defense. As tragic as the murders of Laci
Peterson and Lori Hacking are, their husbands--if guilty--are
aberrations who are no more representative of American husbands
than Harris and Wright are of American wives.
This column first appeared in