The most unequal and unfair treatment meted out to either gender is the mistreatment of men and fathers by family courts and by the domestic violence system. After a divorce or separation dads are often pushed to the margins of their children’s lives, even though in most cases they’ve never been found culpable of any wrongdoing, and did not seek to dissolve their marriages. Family courts often deprive men of shared custody and generally allow them only a few days a month to spend with their children.

While the government has created a vast, $5 billion a year bureaucracy dedicated to enforcing child support orders, there is almost no governmental effort made to enforce fathers' visitation rights. When fathers are prevented from seeing their children in violation of court orders--as studies show is common--they must hire an attorney and go to court, and even then the orders aren’t enforced without repeated, expensive litigation.

Women’s advocates once did good work bringing the problem of domestic violence to public attention. Yet today’s DV policies are so extreme that they are victimizing many innocent men.

Over the past decade and a half there has been an explosion in DV restraining orders, as new laws and services have made the orders easier to obtain. According to the Justice Department, two million restraining orders are issued each year in the United States, most of them based on DV allegations.

When a restraining order is issued, the man is booted out of his own home and can be jailed if he tries to contact his own children, even though he has never been afforded the opportunity to defend himself. The subsequent hearings to determine whether the orders will be made permanent are often conducted in an assembly line fashion with little due process. These orders often do not even involve an allegation of violence—often the "abuse" needed to get a restraining order can be "spoken" or "written,” and thus almost impossible to refute in court.

During the 1990s, many states and law enforcement agencies adopted mandatory/presumptive arrest policies which virtually require officers to make arrests when responding to domestic violence calls. At the same time, many District Attorneys have instituted “no drop” prosecution policies. These have led to large numbers of arrests and prosecutions in cases where it is very questionable whether the men actually committed any abuse. In addition, the “predominant aggressor” laws passed by nearly two dozen states encourage officers to arrest men and only men in domestic disputes.

The Violence Against Women Act, first passed in 1994, has provided the DV establishment with over $5 billion in funding. Yet male victims of domestic violence are excluded from most services, even though decades of research confirm that men comprise a significant minority of domestic violence victims.

The intent of the ERA during its heyday in the 1970s was to eliminate sex discrimination, and at that time sex discrimination was a significant problem for women. Now gender bias and discrimination—in practice, if not in the law—cut both ways. The Equal Rights Amendment, because it seeks to end any bias or discrimination based on sex, is appropriate. The “Women’s Equality Amendment,” which ignores many of the worst gender-based injustices, is not.