My latest His Side with Glenn Sacks radio commentary for KLAA AM 830 in Los Angeles criticizes the Florida child welfare system for its handling of the "Elian Gonzalez II" case in Miami.

To listen to the commentary, click here.  In my commentary, I explained:

"There's been a lot of media attention focused on the 'Elian Gonzalez II' case in Miami. The battle over a 4-year-old Cuban immigrant girl pits her Cuban father, Rafael Izquierdo, against a wealthy Cuban-American foster family. Just as Elian's father Juan Gonzalez faced numerous unfair hurdles to get his son back, Izquierdo is being manhandled by the child welfare system, in part because of the system's anti-father bias.

"In 2005, the girl's mother brought the girl to Miami from Cuba. The Florida Department of Children & Families removed the girl from her mother's custody in 2006, after an investigation found that the woman's mental illness rendered her an unfit parent. She was placed with a foster family, and Izquierdo came to the US to bring his daughter home.

"Izquierdo has spent months in the US and is still being denied custody of his daughter--an outrageous violation of fathers' rights. Izquierdo should not have to fight to raise his own child. He is a fit father--how and where to raise his daughter is his decision."

To read my views on the original Elian Gonzalez case, see April 22, 7th Anniversary of Elian Gonzalez's Reunion with His Father.

To learn more about the Elian Gonzalez II case, click here.

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I recently stumbled upon an old column of mine which discusses the sacrifices that breadwinner dads--particularly blue collar dads--make for their families. In it, I included a few stories from when I did construction work in my mid-20s. They serve to demonstrate the special hardships that blue-collar men endure to provide for their families, and perhaps will interest the reader.

From my column The Price of Fatherhood--a Father's Reply to Ann Crittenden's 'Mothers' Manifesto' (Los Angeles Daily Journal, San Francisco Daily Journal, 1/10/02):

"[Many men are] financially trapped in a hazardous job--what men's advocate Warren Farrell calls the 'glass cellar of male disposability.' A construction job I worked at when I was young illustrates well the untold cost of fatherhood which many men pay.

"I worked at a nuclear power plant in the South. Every morning we strapped on our tool belts and hard hats, and made the long climb up the rebar skeletal frame of the building. Once we were 50 feet up, we hooked our hook belts around the rebar and then leaned back to work, with most of our weight on that hook belt. Leaving aside the blistering heat, the difficult reaches, and the danger of someone else's tools falling on you, the reality was that your life--minute by minute, hour after hour, day after day--was dependent upon that hook belt.

"One day a journeyman electrician called to me to climb down and help him. He had a rope in one hand and his tool box in the other. We walked over to a large room filled with immense electrical panels. He told me to stand 10 feet behind him and hold the rope. I had no idea why, but I did as I was told. He then made the other part of the rope into a harness, put it on, and said 'I'm gonna work on these wires, and some of them are live. If I hit the wrong one and start to fry, you pull me out.'

"I thought he was joking.

"He wasn't.

"He began to work and every once in a while he would take a tool he was done with and throw it at my feet, saying "hey--you awake? I got three kids to feed and they ain't gonna go barefoot 'cause you aren't payin' attention."

"'No, no, I'm here,' I protested. 'Why don't they turn off the power so you can do this without being in danger?'

"'Company won't do it. Too expensive.'

"'More expensive than your life?'

"'To them.'

"'How come you don't just tell them 'no?''

"'Can't. Got kids to feed.'

"'You could do something else. Go to college.'

"'No money for it--got kids, a wife, a mortgage. Wait 'till you get married and have kids--you'll see.'

"Lunch time was often the time for 'scare the new guy' on workplace injuries and safety. Every man had a horror story to tell, either about what happened to him or what happened to his buddy. The guy who shot his nailgun into a knot in wood and the nail glanced off and nailed his hand to the wall--just before his ladder came out from under him. The guy who sliced his fingers off with a saw and stepped on one as he tried to pick them up one by one. The guy who repaired power lines and hit a live wire while working 20 feet up and is only alive today because his buddy kicked him off the pole..."

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"I watched a small man with thick calluses on both hands work 15 and 16 hours a day. I saw him once literally bleed from the bottoms of his feet, a man who came here uneducated, alone, unable to speak the language, who taught me all I needed to know about faith and hard work by the simple eloquence of his example."

"I talk and talk and talk, and I haven't taught people in 50 years what my father taught by example in one week."--Mario Cuomo, governor of New York, 1983-1994.

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One of the best songs about the sacrifices fathers make to support their families is Billy Joel's "The Downeaster 'Alexa'." The song is about a working-class fisherman who works hard and sacrifices at his dangerous job because "I've got bills to pay and children who need clothes...I've got people back on land who count on me."

The fishermen take pride in doing what needs to be done to take care of their wives and children--"I worked my fingers to the bone/So I could own my Downeaster Alexa/And I go where the ocean is deep/There are giants out there in the canyons/And a good captain can't fall asleep...Tell my wife I am trolling Atlantis/And I still have my hands on the wheel."

Alexa is Billy Joel's daughter. It's a powerful song and video--to listen and watch, click here. Joel wrote it in support of the struggling fisherman of Long Island, where he worked on an oyster boat when he was young.

The Downeaster 'Alexa'

Well I'm on the Downeaster Alexa
And I'm cruising through Block Island Sound
I have charted a course to the Vineyard
But tonight I am Nantucket bound

We took on diesel back in Montauk yesterday
And left this morning from the bell in Gardiner's Bay
Like all the locals here I've had to sell my home
Too proud to leave I worked my fingers to the bone

So I could own my Downeaster Alexa
And I go where the ocean is deep
There are giants out there in the canyons
And a good captain can't fall asleep

I've got bills to pay and children who need clothes
I know there's fish out there but where God only knows
They say these waters aren't what they used to be
But I've got people back on land who count on me

So if you see my Downeaster Alexa
And if you work with the rod and the reel
Tell my wife I am trolling Atlantis
And I still have my hands on the wheel

Now I drive my Downeaster Alexa
More and more miles from shore every year
Since they tell me I can't sell no stripers
And there's no luck in swordfishing here

I was a bayman like my father was before
Can't make a living as a bayman anymore
There ain't much future for a man who works the sea
But there ain't no island left for islanders like me

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Background: Murderess Mary Winkler--who shot her husband in the back and then refused to aid him or call 911 as he slowly bled to death for 20 minutes--walked away a free woman last month after serving a farcically brief "sentence" for her crimes.

Winkler scammed the court with uncorroborated claims that Matthew (pictured with his wife and three daughters) abused her. According to the testimony from Matthew Winkler's nine-year-old daughter, Patricia, the dead father--who as he lay dying looked at his wife and asked "why?"--was a good man and did not abuse her mother.

Winkler at first claimed the shooting was an accident and that she panicked, but after her arrest, she switched to the "abused woman" defense that killer women employ so effectively. There was no evidence or corroboration of her abuse claims, but the jury found her guilty of the lesser crime of voluntary manslaughter. After her conviction, she served a mere week in prison, then two months in a mental health facility. Since Mary Winkler's arrest, the couple's three children have been cared for by Matthew Winkler's parents, who have filed court papers seeking to terminate her parental rights. To learn more about this horrendous injustice, click here.

The Tennessee Supreme Court has denied a request by Mary Winkler to intervene in her custody case, which apparently will make it more difficult for her to regain custody of her kids. The Associated Press article on it is below.

What's really amazing is the way Winkler sees herself as the victim of her murdered husband's parents. Her court pleading reads "The three minor children continue to be withheld from their mother without just cause." "Without just cause?" How about the fact that she shot the children's father in the back and let him slowly bleed to death for 20 minutes? If that's not "just cause" for withholding a child from a parent, what could ever be?

Winkler also whines that the children's "grandfather threatened to call the sheriff if Winkler tried to see the children." What a bastard--I guess he still holds a grudge against Mary for, you know, murdering his son.

State Supreme Court will not intervene in Winkler custody case
Associated Press, 9/4/07

JACKSON, Tenn. -- The Tennessee Supreme Court has denied a request to intervene in a case that will determine whether Mary Winkler regains custody of her three young daughters.

Winkler was hoping the court would the court to stop an attempt by the children's paternal grandparents, Dan and Diane Winkler, to adopt them over their mother's objections.

Winkler gave the grandparents temporary custody of the children in 2006 after she was arrested in the shooting death of her minister husband at the Selmer parsonage where they lived.

Winkler's attorney in the custody case, Kay Farese Turner, did not immediately return a call seeking comment on Tuesday morning.

She has asked a juvenile court in McNairy County to return the children and in April a court appointed guardian testified that the girls could go back to their mother.

But the juvenile court halted its proceedings without a ruling when the grandparents asked a chancery court where they live in Carroll County to terminate Winkler's parental rights and let them adopt the girls.

The filing before the Supreme Court said Winkler has seen her daughters only twice since March 2006 and not at all since September. It claims the grandfather threatened to call the sheriff if Winkler tried to see the children.

"The three minor children continue to be withheld from their mother without just cause resulting in substantial mental and emotional harm to mother and her children," according to the court petition filed last month.

Winkler was convicted of voluntary manslaughter in April. She was freed last month after spending 12 days in jail and about two months at a mental health facility.

The Tennessee Court of Appeals has declined previously to get involved in the custody battle, claiming it did not have jurisdiction over the case.

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For Spanish-speaking readers, I was quoted by the Univision network in their recent piece "El rol del padre divorciado--Como mantenerse cerca de los hijos" ("The Role of Divorced Dads--How to Maintain Your Relationship with Your Children").

I discussed the difficulties divorced dads face, in part because of mothers' interference with fathers' relationships with their children. I also discussed the importance of fathers' integrating themselves into their children's school and athletic activities, particularly as the kids get older. I cited the recent Boston College study on the importance of noncustodial fathers in inner-city, minority families.

Though my Spanish is deteriorating steadily as I age and get out of practice, I occasionally appear on Spanish TV or radio. One of the more interesting shows was a special Univision's Aqui y Ahora did on post-divorce move-aways in 2005. The show featured the story of Jose Ceballos, a reader of mine whose little son was moved 1,500 miles away against his will. To watch, click here.

The new Univision piece is El rol del padre divorciado--Como mantenerse cerca de los hijos.

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Many of my readers are fathers who've been locked out of their children's lives after a divorce or separation. That's why we fatherhood/shared parenting advocates are always thrilled when some SOB father who does enjoy joint custody mistreats his children.

Today's case in point, Lucien Hoffman, who (allegedly) left his two year-old daughter in a hot car for two hours while he was.....in a whorehouse. Nice job, pal.

Apparently Hoffman never learned what most dads who have daughters understood the moment our daughters were born--dads are their little girls' protectors.

I'm not sure what Hoffman's punishment will be. (I might suggest a rope and a tree). Fortunately the girl is ok and is now with child protective services--let's hope she's reunited with her mother, ASAP. The article is below, a video of the news report can be found here.

Two Year Old Left In Car While Dad Is In Brothel
September 3, 2007

A two year old is in protective custody Monday after being left in a burning hot car while authorities say her father was in a brothel.

The Storey County sheriff's department said, Lucien Hoffman, was inside the "Mustang Ranch" when deputies arrived Sunday evening.

Security guards were the first to find his daughter, paramedics who then arrived treated her for dehydration.

Authorities say she'd been left, unattended, for about two hours in 95-degree heat.

Hoffman was arrested for child neglect.

He is being held at the Storey County detention facility on 40-thousand dollars bail.

The sheriff's department says Hoffman who's from Bend, Oregon has joint custody of the girl.

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"I remember I thought you looked like an angel wrapped in pink so soft and warm / You've had me wrapped around your finger since the day you were born...

"When you were in trouble that crooked little smile could melt my heart of stone / Now look at you, I've turned around and you've almost grown...

"Sometimes you're asleep I whisper 'I Love You!' in the moonlight at your door / As I walk away, I hear you say, 'Daddy Love You More!'"

Country & Western singer Tim McGraw performs many songs about fatherhood and family, and his words and observations are often dead-on. One example is his song Grown Men Don't Cry--see my blog post Tim McGraw: '...my little girl says 'I love you dad'.

Another is his 2006 song My Little Girl. McGraw has three young daughters. As I'm sure is true for many of you, McGraw's lyrics above are pretty much a perfect description of my relationship with my little daughter. "You've had me wrapped around your finger since the day you were born"--yup, that's about it.

To watch the music video to the song, which was part of the soundtrack to the 2006 movie Flicka, click here. The full lyrics to the song are below.

My Little Girl

Gotta hold on easy as I let you go.
Gonna tell you how much I love you,
though you think you already know.
I remember I thought you looked like an angel wrapped in pink so soft and warm.
You've had me wrapped around your finger since the day you were born.

Your beautiful baby from the outside in.
Chase your dreams but always know the road that'll lead you home again.
Go on, take on this whole world.
But to me you know you'll always be, my little girl.

When you were in trouble that crooked little smile could melt my heart of stone.
Now look at you, I've turned around and you've almost grown.
Sometimes you're asleep I whisper "I Love You!" in the moonlight at your door.
As I walk away, I hear you say, "Daddy Love You More!".

Someday, some boy will come and ask me for your hand.
But I won't say "yes" to him unless I know, he's the half
that makes you whole, he has a poet's soul, and the heart of a man's man.
I know he'll say that he's in love.
But between you and me. He won't be good enough!

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When Dad Does It, He's a Deadbeat and a Deserter, When Mom Does It, She's a Hero "Child advocates on Wednesday hailed the actions of a teenage mother who left her 8-month-old baby girl at a fire station -- even though [the girl] was too old for Florida's so-called safe haven law, which allows parents to leave newborns up to three days old at a hospital, fire station or emergency medical complex anonymously and without the fear of a criminal investigation... "'I think it was pretty courageous that she recognized that somebody could take care of the baby better than her,' said Scott Lindeman...'[the mother] is very brave,' said Nick Silverio...'She did the right thing.'" The Orlando Sentinel article below sings the praises of a mother who abandoned her baby at a fire station. I don't exactly fault the mother--she's young and probably distraught and confused--but I think the labels of "bravery" and "courageous" are a little absurd. If it were a father who had abandoned a baby at a fire station, even a young father, the words for him wouldn't be nearly as kind. I've often wondered why women who give their children up for adoption are often considered heroic ("they gave the child life and then allowed it to go to a good home"), but fathers who feel unequipped to take care of their children are vilified as "deadbeats" and "deserters." I discussed this double standard some in my co-authored column Respect a Man's Choice, Too (8/1/06), written for the left-wing website AlterNet. The Orlando Sentinel article even expresses sympathy for a mother who called a Florida child welfare agency to ask if they would take her son--who was 12! Imagine a father wanting to dump his 12-year-old kid on the state being treated sympathetically. 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I've been hard on child support officials in the past for their ridiculous pretense that when fathers don't pay their child support, it means that they have the money but are being stingy with their kids. Research shows just the opposite--the fathers who can pay, usually do so. Most who don't pay, can't.

I want to commend child support enforcement in this blog post, so I won't belabor the point. To learn more about the problems with the child support system, see my co-authored column When Beating up on 'Deadbeat Dads' is Unfair (Houston Chronicle, 1/7/07),  or click here.

In this article, David Engle, director of the Washington County Department of Social Services, explains that one of the biggest barriers to paying support is unemployment. He says:

"The No. 1 reason why people can't pay their support is they're not able to find a job, or a job doesn't give them sufficient funds to pay the support," he said.

In another positive, according to this article, "The Hamilton County Juvenile Court and the Child Support Enforcement Agency [in Ohio] is offering a one-week amnesty program where warrants will be dropped if parents appear in court...The appearance erases the warrant, which means they are not subject to immediate arrest. The parents still must appear in court and deal with whatever child support issues were facing them when they did not appear for the original court hearing, but they can start the process fresh, said Brian Gregg, spokesperson for the Hamilton County Job & Family Services, which includes the support agency.

"'They can go out and find an job and start paying,' he said. 'A lot of people show up with a payment, but they don't have to. This is a fresh start.'"

I commend both David Engle and Brian Gregg.

Thanks to child support expert Jane Spies of the National Family Justice Association for the first article. Jane discusses problems with the child support system in her recent article The Myth of the Successful Child Support System.

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"Infidelity is nothing new. But more and more women are finding out, when their guys cheat, they also empty out the family bank account. The spouses find out that they are not only alone, but also broke."

The report below from FOX News 11 in Los Angeles is unbelievably gender biased--almost to the point of sounding like a parody. We're given the tales of victim after victim whose husbands allegedly emptied out their bank accounts and deserted them for mistresses.

Interestingly, I hear from men all the time whose wives have siphoned off their money or emptied out their bank accounts in preparation for their divorces. When the men try to explain this to the family court judge, they say usually the judge has no interest in it, and the theft stands.

Listening to this nonsense one would imagine that infidelity was a vice owned exclusively by the male of the human species. In reality, research estimates that for every five unfaithful husbands, there are four unfaithful wives.

To watch the report, click here.

I suppose there could be one element of truth to this report--men probably are more likely to spend money on "The Other Woman" than women are to spend it on "The Other Man." This isn't because the men are more vile, but instead because in most romantic relationships, men--not women--are expected to pay for the vacation, the hotel, the weekend in Vegas, etc.

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Background: Charlotte Hardwick's Dear Judge (Kid's Letters to the Judge) is a fascinating collection of letters which children caught in divorces have written to family law judges.

In the letter below, a fatherless young girl writes a judge asking, "If a good dad that is getting kicked out of his family needs a new one, please make sure he sees our picture."

Dear Judge,

I heard on the television that half of the people who get married are getting divorced. I think about half of those people are dads.
 
Some must still be good. My mom has never been married and I would like a dad.
 
Could you put this picture of me and my mom on the front of your desk in the court? If a good dad that is getting kicked out of his family needs a new one, please make sure he sees our picture. If a bad dad sees our picture and asks about us tell him we are not home.
 
I am pretty and a good girl. My mom is pretty and a good mom. We have a house and will get a dog if you think it will help.
 
Thank you, Trish P.

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