His Side on Fox Special on Boys & Education, Feminist Magazine Slanders Glenn

June 28, 2005

The audio of  Sunday's His Side--"NOMAS Leader Michael Kimmel Criticizes Men's Movement"--can be heard by clicking here. On the show Kimmel, America's leading male feminist, actually admitted that "there's a ton of men getting screwed in family court."


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His Side with Glenn Sacks on Fox Special on Boy Crisis in Education

Fox just aired a special on the boy crisis in education which featured clips from His Side, an in-studio interview with me, an interview with Michelle Ventimiglia, the director of the preschool that both of my children attended, and feminist sociology professor Mary Blair-Loy of the University of California at San Diego.

The jumping off point for the piece was my Los Angeles Times column New Study of Youth Shows It's Boys Who Are in Crisis (3/20/05). In that column I discussed the Boy Crisis in education and criticized Duke researchers for hiding boys' disadvantage in their reporting of the results of their study of youth. The researchers wrote the Times,  accusing me of  "cherry-picking" from their data to support my arguments. However, I "picked" nothing, but instead looked at all 28 indices of child well-being which they studied and noted that while boys and girls fared equally in six of the 28 categories, girls fared better than boys in 17 of the remaining 22.

Ventimiglia, whose school is very attuned to boys' learning styles and educational needs, spoke movingly of the way modern schools are failing our boys. Blair-Loy gave the standard feminist response, which is:

  1. deny that the boy crisis exists
  2. assert that whatever happens with boys in school, males will still end up earning more money than females, so boys' school problems are not important
  3. assert that the differences in education are related to race and income level, not gender

Regarding point #2, as I noted on Fox, males earn more money because they make more sacrifices to earn money, whereas women are still more oriented towards the domestic sphere. To hear a debate on the wage gap, see Martha Burk v. Warren Farrell on the 'Wage Gap' (His Side, 5/22/05).

As for point #3, it certainly is true that race and ethnicity play a large role in education, particularly in heavily immigrant areas such as Southern California. But the gender differences between boys and girls are also stark.

Much of the problem is political, and may sound familiar to fathers who've been through family court--there's a political price to be paid for giving females a raw deal, but no corresponding political price for shafting males. Boys are in crisis in part because the schools are under little pressure to adapt themselves to boys' needs and learning styles. As I noted in my column Start of School Very Different for Parents of Boys, Parents of Girls  (Washington Times, 9/12/04):

"The educational establishment has reacted to the boy crisis in education in a way reminiscent of Bertolt Brecht's famous poem about calls to reform or dissolve the unpopular government of East Germany: the government found it difficult to reform itself, so would instead choose to 'dissolve the people and elect another.'

Similarly, rather than reform a system woefully out of touch with boys' real world natures and needs, our schools find it easier to demand that boys be something other than boys."

To watch the Fox feature, which was filmed back in April, click here.


Feminist Magazine Slanders Glenn, Attacks Fathers' Movement

The feminist publication The Mother's Movement Online recently slandered me, calling me a "supporter of father's custody." As I've made clear on countless occasions, I am not an advocate for paternal sole custody any more than I'm an advocate for the present system of maternal sole custody. Paradoxically, the article criticizing me linked to a column I co-authored which advocates shared custody--Can Abolishing Sole Custody Curb Divorce? (New York Sun, 10/2/02).

In addition to criticizing me (who they humorously dubbed a "big name right-wing radio personality"), the publication also took aim at Fathers 4 Justice, Wendy McElroy, Jason Hatch, and others. The article is Judith Stadtman Tucker's What's wrong with the father's rights movement.

The magazine can be reached at mail@mothersmovement.org.


Senator Obama Attacks Black Fathers

U.S. Sen. Barack Obama (D-Ill.) attacked black fathers last week--see Obama's church sermon to black dads: Grow up and Obama's Here's what it takes to be a bona fide `full-grown' man (Chicago Tribune, 6/22/05). According to the Tribune:

"'There are a lot of folks, a lot of brothers, walking around, and they look like men,' Obama said, drawing laughter from the congregation. 'And they're tall, and they've got whiskers--they might even have sired a child. But it's not clear to me that they're full-grown men.'

Citing St. Paul's First Letter to the Corinthians, Obama said too many fathers 'engage in childish things, who are more concerned about what they want than what's good for other people.'"

I believe that black fathers often get a bad rap, and that black fatherlessness is as much a product of mothers' choices as of fathers'--see my column National Fatherhood Initiative's Ad Campaign Insults African-American Fathers (Pasadena Star-News & Affiliated Papers, 6/14/03) and the His Side show National Fatherhood Initiative Attacks Black Fathers


National Review's Catherine Seipp Launches Another Assault on Fathers

National Review columnist Catherine Seipp has launched another assault on fathers, this time on the fathers' rights movement specifically in her new Father's Day column But Dad Can't Do It All (6/17/05).

Seipp and I clashed after she insulted fathers last Father's Day in her column "Meet Today's Dad: A model to avoid" (National Review Online , 6/16/04)--to listen to her on His Side, go to Is Today's Dad a Wimp and a Slacker? (7/25/04). Seipp then took another swipe at me in her column Vox Populi and Me: My tour on the local talk-radio circuit (National Review Online, 8/18/04).

To write to Catherine, click here.

I've often made the point that while many in the men's and fathers' movement point to feminists as the sole cause of injustice to men, a large part of the problem is not feminists but instead traditionalists, male and female. Seipp is no feminist, but instead criticizes us from the "shut up and be a man" perspective shared by many anti-feminist and non-feminist women. As I've said many times, "be a man" is often code for "go do something stupid that benefits someone else but is not in your best interests."


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NOMAS Leader Michael Kimmel
Criticizes Men's Movement

Sponsors of the 2005 Men's Equality Conference, to be held July 15 and 16 in Washington D.C., believe that males are often disadvantaged, and that feminism is part of the problem. Among the grievances cited by the conference are unfairness or inequity in Family Courts, Education, Health, Domestic Violence policies, Paternity Fraud, Criminal Law, and in Reproductive Rights.

 

Author and sociologist Michael Kimmel, National Spokesperson for the pro-feminist men's group the National Organization for Men Against Sexism (NOMAS), disagrees, to put it mildly. In his book Manhood in America Kimmel, America's leading male feminist, calls the men's movement "whiners." According to Kimmel:

 

"Fathers' rights groups use a language of equality to take their revenge against women to court, to demand mandatory joint custody without demonstration of father's prior involvement. Most advocates of men's and fathers' rights are disgruntled and divorced dads who blame their wives and their wives' lawyers..."

 

Kimmel says the men's movement analysis of gender issues is "so misguided, its inversions so transparent, its anger is displaced onto those who have traditionally been excluded, that it can hardly offer any man of reason a convincing picture of men's situation." To Kimmel, those who assert that the tables have been turned against men in the gender wars are looking at the world "through a funhouse mirror."

Kimmel joined Glenn on His Side with Glenn Sacks on Sunday, June 26.  To listen to the show, click  here.

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