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Anti-Male Conservative Fires Back
In the counter to our column, Suanne Thompson,
legislative liaison for Right to Life of Michigan,
wrote:
"News stories report, 'Couple kidnaps pregnant
daughter, drove to New York to force her to
abort'; 'Mother forced pregnant 16-year-old
daughter to drink turpentine to induce abortion';
and the latest, 'Arkansas man raped teen, forced
her to have abortion.'
"These coerced abortions are a few of the
most recent ones we know about. Forced abortions
are at epidemic levels, yet are concealed in
secrecy. This secret assault on women needs
to be discouraged.
"Sixty-four percent of post-abortive women
surveyed indicated they felt coerced to abort,
having no choice but to comply with the wishes
of others.
"Surprisingly, the No. 1 cause of death among
pregnant women is homicide. Pregnant black women
are seven times more likely to be murdered than
pregnant white women. Often times the woman's
refusal to abort precipitates the crime. Boyfriends,
husbands, parents -- the very people who should
protect the health and welfare of their pregnant
spouse or daughter -- are the ones who selfishly
demand the baby be eliminated.
"When women are threatened to abort, up to
80 percent feel guilt, regret, loss and depression
afterward, especially if the coercion violated
their conscience. They subsequently have shorter
relationships, more divorces, live in poverty,
repeat abortions, experience substance abuse
and many more risk factors. There is a solution
to this secret assault on women...
"After months of researching and evaluating
numerous medical journal studies and thousands
of personal testimonies, a package of bills
has been written that makes it a crime to coerce
a woman to abort her baby against her will.
"This legislation, known as the Coercive
Abortion Prevention Act (CAPA), is sponsored
by Michigan women legislators. It would give
women the backing they need to stand up and
say, 'You can't force me; it's against the law.'
"For those bullies who refuse to live up
to this standard and continue to violate women,
this law will identify perpetrators and bring
them to justice. Abortion clinic personnel will
screen every woman for coercion. If she identifies
herself as being forced to abort, the clinic
personnel will follow intervention protocols
and develop a safety plan that may include a
call to law enforcement or to a domestic violence
shelter....
"This legislation is revolutionary first
in the nation. This can also be a coming together
of all factions who are interested in rescuing
women from harm."
Read the full column
here.
Several of Thompson's claims are questionable,
to say the least. I would love to know more
about the study where "Sixty-four percent of
post-abortive women surveyed indicated they
felt coerced to abort, having no choice but
to comply with the wishes of others." Probably
it was a self-selected survey where they took
a group of women who feel they were victimized
in relation to abortion, surveyed them, and
then passed off the results as an indicator
of how all women who have had an abortion
feel.
The feminists do this all the time--for one
example, see
California NOW's Family Court Report 2002:
Faulty Research, False Conclusions (Los
Angeles Daily Journal, San Francisco Daily Journal,
7/11/02). In it I debunked a self-selected
survey by the California branch of the National
Organization for Women which they claimed showed
that family courts were biased against women.
California NOW didn't like my criticism, and
complained about it in another report which
they issued this October.
There are well over a million abortions a
year, and have been for over three decades--do
Thompson, Michigan Right to Life and their cothinkers
really expect us to believe that in two-thirds
of these cases the women only had the abortions
because they "had no choice but to comply with
the wishes" of the children's fathers? That's
preposterous. The anti-male feminist left shifts
all blame for gender-related problems onto men.
Conservatives (or many of them) believe that
abortion is wrong, so they try to shift the
blame for abortion onto men.
Thompson claims "Surprisingly, the No. 1
cause of death among pregnant women is homicide."
It's a "surprise" because it isn't true--see
my next entry below for the details.
Thompson writes, "Pregnant black women are
seven times more likely to be murdered than
pregnant white women." Since black women are
far more likely to be murdered in general than
white women, it's hard to see what significance
this statement is supposed to have. And women
in general are vastly less likely to be murdered
than men, the safest people of all being white
women.
Thompson writes, "When women are threatened
to abort, up to 80 percent feel guilt, regret,
loss and depression afterward, especially if
the coercion violated their conscience." Again,
this is probably from a self-selected sample.
And many women feel guilt or regrets over their
abortions--I guess that's men's fault, too.
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Help, Resources for Dads
The
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Is It True That 'the No. 1 Cause of Death Among
Pregnant Women is Homicide?'
One of the main pillars of Thompson's castle
is her claim--commonly made by misguided feminists
and the mainstream media--that "the No. 1 cause
of death among pregnant women is homicide."
This claim got a big boost from the Washington
Post and its affiliated papers in December
of 2004 when it published a highly-publicized
series of articles which detailed an alleged
epidemic of maternal homicide by male intimates.
There are two
main points to be said about this claim. One,
death among pregnant women is very rare, so
even a relatively small number of homicides
of pregnant women could make it the top cause
of death. Two, as best as one can tell, murder
is not the top cause of death among pregnant
women, and probably is not even close. In my
column
New Report on Maternal Homicide Crisis: Myth-Making
and Manbashing (Lexington Herald-Leader,
1/3/05) I discussed the issue in more detail:
"'Pregnant women
murdered at an alarming rate.' 'Killings of
new, expectant mothers mount.' 'Many new or
expectant mothers die violent deaths.' 'Violence
trails expectant mothers.' 'Pregnant mothers
often die of murder.'
"These headlines top a highly-publicized
new series of articles by Donna St. George of
the Washington Post. The series, which
appeared in many major newspapers and media
outlets this week, details an alleged epidemic
of maternal homicide by male intimates.
"The series powerfully depicts the tragedies
of murdered expectant or new mothers. The mother-to-be
killed the day her mother ordered the cake for
her baby shower. The pregnant 14 year-old murdered
by her 14 year-old ex-boyfriend. The bank manager
killed because she wouldn't convert to her husband's
religion before their twins were born. However,
despite the emotion, alarm bells and blaring
headlines, the series fails to build the case
that maternal homicide is an epidemic, is on
the rise, or is even a significant social problem.
"According to the Post's numbers,
there are about 100 documented murders of pregnant
women in the United States each year. Yet according
to the Centers for Disease Control, nearly four
million women give birth each year. One out
of 40,000 is not an epidemic. The Post
speculates that the true number could be significantly
higher but also notes that 30% of these killings
are not related to childbearing, but instead
involve drug dealing, robberies, errant gunfire,
or other causes. And some pregnant women are
killed by other women, as in the recent Missouri
murder of Bobbie Jo Stinnett by a woman who
cut her live baby from her womb.
"St. George and others point to a Journal
of the American Medical Association article
which states that in Maryland a 'pregnant or
recently pregnant woman is more likely to be
a victim of homicide than to die of any other
cause.' This sounds alarming until one considers
that there are an average of eight murders of
pregnant women each year in Maryland--alongside
75,000 live births.
"St. George also cites a study by the Massachusetts
Department of Public Health which allegedly
showed murder to be the biggest cause of death
for pregnant women and new mothers. When this
study was released the Boston Globe
summarized its findings as follows:
"Murder is the leading cause of death for
Massachusetts mothers in the 21-month period
from when they become pregnant until their babies
reach their first birthday, according to a state
review that shows domestic violence today is
more dangerous than medical complications from
childbirth."
"However, when public health specialist Ned
Holstein of the Mount Sinai School of Medicine
examined the report, he found that murder was
well down the list of alleged causes of maternal
death. According to the study's own data, the
leading causes of death of pregnant or recently-pregnant
women over a 10-year period were Medical conditions
(152), Motor vehicle accidents (21), Domestic
violence homicides (20), other homicides (10),
and Miscellaneous (29). The epidemic of domestic
violence-related homicides sweeping Massachusetts
consists of an average of two deaths per year.
"'The risk of murder by an intimate is extremely
small, not an epidemic,' says Holstein, a physician
who also heads Fathers and Families of Massachusetts.
'Although every death is tragic, murder of pregnant
women simply does not rank as a significant
public health problem.'
"St. George's article series expresses commendable
concern about battery of pregnant women but
errs in claiming a link between domestic violence
and pregnancy. According to longtime domestic
violence researcher Richard J. Gelles, co-author
of Behind Closed Doors, 'to be pregnant
alone doesn't put a woman at risk.'
"'Women between the ages of 20 and 34 suffer
the highest rate of domestic violence, and that
is also the most likely age to be pregnant,'
he says. 'Age is driving the risk, not pregnancy'...
"St. George uses anecdote and emotion in
place of facts and research in order to find
a mythical crisis of maternal homicide. It is
another example of how legitimate concern for
battered women often devolves into an alarmist
and anti-male view of domestic violence and
gender relations."
To learn more about the issue, also see my column
Domestic Violence Series Substitutes Emotion
for Facts (San Francisco
Chronicle, 4/8/05).
Glenn Discusses the Coercive Abortion Prevention
Act on the Nationally-Syndicated Lars Larson
Show
Family law attorney Jeff Leving and I discussed
our co-authored column
Coercive Abortion Prevention Act Assumes Male
Guilt, Opens Door to Unfair Prosecutions
(Detroit News,11/30/06) on the nationally-syndicated
Lars Larson
Show on December 4.
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On the Subject of Violating Men's Rights
to Allegedly 'Protect' Women...
In a recent column
Kofi's Legacy Misfires Wendy McElroy of
iFeminists discusses the United Nations new
Secretary-General's Study on Violence Against
Women (SVAW). The SVAW suggests removing "obstacles"
to eliminating violence against women. McElroy
writes:
"[One] identified obstacle is 'privacy rights'
- that is, 'legal doctrines protecting the privacy
of the home and family' (e.g. Fourth Amendment
guarantees in the Constitution). Such doctrines
are accused of 'justifying' the failure of the
State and society to intervene when violence
is committed against women in the family.'
"Next, 'obstacles' should be overcome by instituting
new policies at 'federal, state, provincial
and local levels, as well as...the judiciary,
legislature and executive.'
"A specific example of a policy change: when
prosecuting cases of violence against women
'rules of evidence and procedure, should be
conducted in a gender-sensitive manner to ensure
that women are not 're-victimized'.' This means
criminal trials should provide 'in-camera proceedings
where appropriate.' Specifically, courtroom
procedures should 'protect the privacy of victims'
by 'allowing evidence to be given by video link
or restricting [public] access to courtrooms.'
"These changes alone would overhaul American
courtrooms. The right of an accused to face
and directly question an accuser is a fundamental
principle of Western jurisprudence; the presence
of transparency is an effective check on judicial
corruption. Presenting evidence by video link
to a closed courtroom would eliminate both."
As I've commented before, to the radical
feminist mind, all that stuff about due process,
the presumption of innocence, the right to face
your accuser, etc., is just a patriarchal scam
designed by men so they can rape and abuse women
without consequence. The SVAW is another example
of this thinking.
US Has Way Too Many People in Prison
According to the Associated Press story
7M in U.S. jails, on probation or parole:
"A record 7 million people -- or one in every
32 American adults -- were behind bars, on probation
or on parole by the end of last year, according
to the Justice Department. Of those, 2.2 million
were in prison or jail, an increase of 2.7 percent
over the previous year, according to a report
released Wednesday.
"More than 4.1 million people were on probation
and 784,208 were on parole at the end of 2005.
Prison releases are increasing, but admissions
are increasing more."
Of course, even though this tragedy disproportionately
affects men--particularly men of color--the
author can't resist explaining why the problems
is so bad for women, who make up all of 7% of
the prison population:
"Men still far outnumber women in prisons
and jails, but the female population is growing
faster. Over the past year, the female population
in state or federal prison increased 2.6 percent
while the number of male inmates rose 1.9 percent.
By year's end, 7 percent of all inmates were
women. The gender figures do not include inmates
in local jails.
"'Today's figures fail to capture incarceration's
impact on the thousands of children left behind
by mothers in prison,' Marc Mauer, the executive
director of the Sentencing Project, a Washington-based
group supporting criminal justice reform, said
in a statement. 'Misguided policies that create
harsher sentences for nonviolent drug offenses
are disproportionately responsible for the increasing
rates of women in prisons and jails.'
"From 1995 to 2003, inmates in federal prison
for drug offenses have accounted for 49 percent
of total prison population growth."
I sympathize with women incarcerated for nonviolent
drug offenses, of course, but I see no reason
to separate their situations from those of all
of the (many more) men who are incarcerated
for the same reasons.
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This Incredible Story Speaks Volumes About the
Way Our Society Views Fathers
From the Detroit News article
Dad's goodbye stokes fears (11/29/06):
"A five-county police lookout for a would-be child
abductor ended Tuesday morning with a nervous phone
call and the realization the suspect was nothing more
than a father waving to his own daughter.
"In an incident police acknowledge stoked fears about
pedophiles, the manhunt began when another 9-year-old
at a playground at Lafayette Elementary School said
a man motioned to her about 11:15 a.m. Monday, then
fled in his vehicle as she ran to tell teachers.
"Police said the man never noticed the other girl
and her reaction, but realized the mix-up after watching
reports about the incident on TV.
"In reality, he was simply passing by, saw his child
and stepped out of his pickup to motion hello.
"'I think we are just in a society of fear right
now. It's unfortunate, but I don't know if we want to
be less cautious either,' said Lincoln Park Lt. Ron
Szalay.
"Police issued a bulletin Monday to law enforcement
agencies in Wayne, Macomb, Oakland, Washtenaw and Monroe
counties.
"They were looking for a man in his 40s, driving
a blue pickup truck.
"By 3 p.m., police received a report from Sterling
Heights about a truck and driver that fit the description.
"However, after getting a call from the school's
principal, Szalay called off the search.
"'We had a fair description and extra cars patrolling
around the school (Tuesday morning) so we probably would
have stopped him if he had come to drop off his kid,'
Szalay said.
"Police aren't releasing the man's name, but Lafayette
Elementary Principal Craig Stanczyk said he and his
family are 'great folks.'
"He was happy the man's wife called him Tuesday morning
to clear up the misunderstanding.
"'She said, 'My husband is very nervous,' Stanczyk
said.
"'Nobody wants to be falsely accused.'
"But, Stanczyk said the girl who made the report
did everything she was taught.
"'It proves that we have a plan and it works,' Stanczyk
said.
"'In this situation, it is better to be safe than
sorry.'"
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Michigan NOW Declares 'Action Alert' Against
Shared Parenting Bill
Michigan shared parenting advocates and the
Michigan chapter of the National Organization
for Women are squaring off over HB 5267, a Michigan
shared parenting bill which will be heard by
the House Families and Children Services Committee
on December 6. Last week NOW issued an
"Action Alert" against the bill. Michigan
shared parenting groups, including
Dads of Michigan, the
American Coalition for Fathers & Children's
Michigan affiliate, the
Family Rights Coalition of Michigan, and
others, are rallying support for the bill.
The contact information for the members of
the House Families and Children Services Committee
who will be deciding on HB 5267 next week are
below--I suggest you call and write them. While
letters from Michigan residents are best, letters
from other states are also helpful.
| House F&C Committee |
District |
Position |
Phone (517) |
Fax (517) |
E-mail |
| Rep. John Stahl (Chair) |
R-North Branch |
Supports |
373-1800 |
373-9981 |
Email |
| Rep. Tom Pearce (Vice
Chair) |
R-Rockford |
Supports |
373-0218 |
373-5697 |
Email |
| Rep. Jack Hoogendyk* |
R-Kalamazoo |
Supports |
373-1774 |
373-8872 |
Email |
| Rep. Fulton Sheen* |
R-Plainwell |
Supports |
373-0836 |
373-8728 |
Email |
| Rep. Barb Vander Veen* |
R-Allendale |
Undecided |
373-0838 |
373-9830 |
Email |
| Rep. Brenda Clack (Vice
Chair) |
D-Flint |
Undecided |
373-8808 |
373-5997 |
Email |
| Rep. Lamar Lemmons,
Jr. |
D-Detroit |
Supports |
373-0106 |
373-7271 |
Email |
| Rep. Gino Polidori |
D-Dearborn |
Undecided |
373-0847 |
373-7538 |
Email |
| Rep. Dudley Spade |
D-Tipton |
Undecided |
373-1706 |
373-5777 |
Email |
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| Rep. Craig DeRoche,
Speaker |
R-Novi |
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373-0827 |
373-5873 |
Email |
| Rep. Chris Ward, Floor
Leader* |
R-Brighton |
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373-1784 |
373-8957 |
Email |
| Rep. Dianne Byrum, Dem
Leader |
D-Onondaga |
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373-0587 |
373-9430 |
Email |
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The Case for HB 5267
Michigan NOW makes its case against shared
parenting and HB 5267
here. I laid out the case in favor of HB
5267 and discussed many of NOW's criticisms
in my co-authored column
HB 5267 Will Help Michigan's Children of Divorce
(Lansing State Journal, 5/28/06). Mike
McCormick, Executive Director of the
American Coalition for Fathers & Children,
and I wrote:
"HB 5267 is primarily sponsored by Rep. Leslie
Mortimer (R-Horton), who has been joined by
10 other legislators. When parents cannot agree
on custody arrangements, the bill instructs
courts to order joint custody unless there is
clear and convincing evidence that one of the
parents is unfit, unwilling, or unable to care
for his or her child. A mediator will then help
the parents draft a shared parenting plan based
on each parent having substantially equal time
with their children. The principle behind the
bill is difficult to dispute--as long as both
parents are fit and there are no extenuating
circumstances, they should both share in parenting
their children...
"NOW claims that HB 5267 'places the interests
of parents over the child's interests.' Yet
when researchers have examined children of divorce,
and studied and queried adult children of divorce,
they've found that most prefer joint custody
and shared parenting.
"For example, a study by psychologist Joan
Kelly, published in the Family and Conciliation
Courts Review, found that children of divorce
'express higher levels of satisfaction with
joint physical custody than with sole custody
arrangements,' and cite the 'benefit of remaining
close to both parents' as an important factor.
"When Arizona State University psychology
professor William Fabricius conducted a study
of college students who had experienced their
parents' divorces while they were children,
he found that over two-thirds believed that
'living equal amounts of time with each parent
is the best arrangement for children.' His findings
were published in Family Relations in
2003.
"Under current law, judges decide custody
cases based on the 12 factors delineated in
Michigan's Best Interest of the Child Test.
Both the Michigan Bar and Michigan NOW assure
us that this system is effective and should
not be changed. However, the 12 factors fail
to place sufficient emphasis on protecting children's
relationships with both parents. According to
the Michigan Family Independence Agency, the
most common parenting time schedule in Michigan
allows children only 15% physical time with
their noncustodial parents.
"Moreover, the custody decisions based on
the factors are often subjective and arbitrary.
Under HB 5267 a court cannot deny requests for
joint custody without stating its reasons on
the record.
"Michigan NOW also asserts that HB 5267 will
'further impoverish children of separated or
divorced parents' because in Michigan, as in
most states, the amount of physical time divorced
parents spend with their children and the concomitant
expenses are calculated into the child support
obligation. These fears are also unwarranted.
"Research demonstrates that joint custody
leads to higher rates of child support compliance.
This isn't surprising, since parents who are
permitted little role in their children's lives
have less motivation to make sacrifices for
them. Also, under the current system noncustodial
parents are often forced to wage expensive court
battles in order to protect their time and relationships
with their children. These parents end up supporting
lawyers instead of kids.
"While Michigan NOW is correct that there
are fathers who put their pocketbooks above
their children's best interests, they ignore
the obvious converse. If a dad may seek 40 or
50% physical time with his children simply to
lower his child support obligation, doesn't
it also hold that a mother may seek 85% physical
time in order to increase it?
"Both Domestic Violence Escape and NOW claim
that the bill will put abused women in harm's
way. According to DOVE, HB 5267 'sends a clear
message to battered women and children that
the 'rights' of a batterer take precedence over
their safety and wellbeing.' Yet under HB 5267
only fit parents are eligible for joint custody--battered
mothers should and would receive sole custody.
"Unfortunately, NOW, DOVE and other misguided
women's advocates seem capable of recognizing
only two types of divorces--ones where both
spouses agree on a custody arrangement, and
divorces involving domestic violence. However,
the overwhelming majority of breakups fit neither
profile. Instead, decent, fit parents often
cannot agree on custody. In such cases, HB 5267
will ensure that children won't see one of the
two people they love the most pushed to the
margins of their lives."
More on HB 5267
Dr. Michael T. Ross of the
Family Rights Coalition of Michigan has
some interesting and informative links on HB
5267, including much opposition commentary,
below:
HB 5267 as Introduced
HB 5267 Legislative Analysis
Michigan State Bar Public Policy Resource Center
(CapWiz)
Family Law Section Article on HB5267 (page 3)
Family Law Section Position on HB5267
Referee Association Article on HB5267
Michigan National Organization for Women
Hanna's Blog:
Response to Comments that a Presumption of Joint
Custody is Appropriate
Hanna's Blog:
Custody Determinations Should Depend Upon the
Particular Facts of a Case, Not a Presumption
Proposed Joint Custody Legislation HB 5267 |
Make Your Voice Heard in Lansing
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Steven Carlson's
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Help for Boston Dads
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Wisdom of Our Fathers
As I mentioned after my co-authored column
America's Father Hunger (World Net Daily,
10/13/06) came out, a new feature on my enewsletter
for the near future is an excerpt from Wisdom of
Our Fathers. This week's excerpt is "The Tag" from
H. John Brandel of Wingate, NC, about his father John
J. Brandel (1916-1991), who served in World War II.
"A few weeks after Dad was buried,
I was going through his personal effects. I opened his
wallet, where I found a dollar and a couple of pictures
of his four granddaughters. I pulled out his driver's
license, and out fell a tag like the ones you get on
your Christmas gifts. I looked at it closely, and on
the back, written in my mother's hand, was a note that
said, He tried to write his name, and he wanted me
to ask you, 'When are you coming home, Daddy?'
"This man, whom I used to think
I could never satisfy, had carried around, for forty-seven
years, a note from his wife and two-year-old son from
Christmas 1944. I learned from this that a father's
love is an enduring thing. Sometimes it's hard for children
to see, and sometimes it's hard for father's to show,
but that love is always there."
PBS Campaign Aftermath: Corporation for Public Broadcasting
Ombudsman Praises PBS for 'Making Good on Its Promise'
to Air Balanced Program
In October 2005, PBS aired the film
Breaking the Silence: Children's Stories on
many of its affiliates. The film portrayed fathers as
batterers and child molesters who use family court machinations
to wrest children away from their mothers. The film
was extremely one-sided, and presented a harmful and
inaccurate view of divorce and child custody cases.
Moreover, the film portrayed
one mother as a heroic, victimized mom, when records
which we made public show that she had abused children
under her care, and had lost custody for that reason.
I joined with
Fathers and Families, the
American Coalition for Fathers & Children, and others
in a
campaign to force PBS to "provide fatherhood and
shared parenting advocates a meaningful opportunity
to present our side of the issues." Over 10,000 of you
wrote or called PBS, and both PBS's ombudsman and the
Corporation for Public Broadcasting's ombudsman echoed
our central criticisms about the film.
In December, PBS notified us that they
would "commission an hour-long documentary" for the
purpose of further examining the "complex and important
issues" raised in the film and by our campaign. They
promised the "hour-long treatment of the subject will
allow ample opportunity" for those of differing views
to "have their perspectives shared, challenged and debated."
Kids & Divorce: For Better or Worse, the film
they commissioned in response to our campaign, aired
in over 50 markets in September.
To PBS's credit, they
followed through on the commitment they made last December
to produce a balanced film. Moreover, PBS partially
adopted the approach we suggested for the film. Earlier
this year
Fathers and Families wrote to Dave Iverson, the
film's producer and host, and suggested that he make
shared parenting the central theme of the new PBS film.
We are pleased to see that Iverson took the suggestion
seriously--much of Kids & Divorce concerns shared
parenting.
The film made two overriding points.
Much of the mainstream media engages in divorce happy
talk, particularly left-leaning institutions, of which
PBS is one. However, from Kids & Divorce's opening
moments the film powerfully depicts the way children
suffer in divorce. Also, throughout the film it was
clear that children want and need both parents, that
they are very aggrieved when their parents don't get
along, and that two-parent involvement is important
after divorce.
This week Ken A. Bode, the Ombudsman for the Corporation
for Public Broadcasting, issued
PBS Follows Through On Commitment to Air Balanced Program,
his report on the Breaking the Silence controversy.
Bode writes:
"[PBS Follows Through On Commitment to Air Balanced
Program] was the headline on the column written by commentator
and talk show host Glenn Sacks. Mr. Sacks was a leader
in denouncing the PBS broadcast, Breaking the Silence:
Children's Stories broadcast systemwide in October
2005. The program was a documentary about the treatment
of abused children in divorce courts offered by Connecticut
Public Television and underwritten by the Mary Kay Ash
Foundation.
"'The film was extremely one-sided, and presented
a harmful and inaccurate view of divorce and child custody
cases,' says Mr. Sacks. He helped mobilize groups representing
fathers to produce thousands of letters and calls to
PBS along with many postings on the CPB Ombudsman's
website.
"In my initial review of the program, I said the
following: 'My own conclusion is that there is no hint
of balance in Breaking the Silence. The father's
point of view is ignored as are new strategies for lessening
the damage to children in custody battles.' Michael
Getler, the ombudsman for PBS, shared my conclusions
that the programs lacked fairness and balance.
"At PBS the program was placed under official review,
and last December it was announced that PBS would commission
an hour-long documentary for the purpose of further
examining the complex and important issues raised in
Breaking the Silence. Twin Cities Public Television
was tapped to produce the second film, and they engaged
experienced PBS broadcaster David Iverson as producer,
writer and host. Jerry Richmond, head of programming
for Twin Cities says that PBS did not prescribe a point
of view. 'PBS only told us to do another program on
the subject. They did not say to do it in response to
Breaking the Silence.'
"The resulting program, Kids & Divorce: For Better
or Worse, reflects the experience and skills of
David Iverson, and also showcases his ability to produce
a fair and objective treatment of the problems of child
custody cases, a part of the law where the issues have
become enmeshed in gender politics. Iverson's approach
was simply to say, 'How can we improve the odds of kids
doing well in divorce? The central question is what
can make things better for kids? We'll try to figure
it out.'
"All in all the hour-long production chugs along
in a steady, deliberate manner, as if in a permanent
second gear. Panels of psychological, legal and custody
experts are assembled with Mr. Iverson leading a series
of discussions, using his low-key, Mr. Rogers manner
to good advantage.
"Keeping to the central question of what best serves
the kids, Iverson examines the legal system -- Does
it make it better or worse? -- along with various shared
custody arrangements. If the film has a point of view
it is that children want and need both parents and that
two-parent involvement after a divorce is important.
An interesting point is that the notion of joint custody
is becoming a political issue at the state level. The
film briefly examines moves toward shared parenting
laws in Massachusetts and Iowa.
"There were a few criticisms of Kids & Divorce,
but most respondents agreed with Mr. Sacks. PBS spent
a considerable amount of money on the film and made
an honest and effective effort to be balanced. As Sacks
put it, 'Last fall on PBS dads were portrayed as evil,
scheming abusers. This week dads were portrayed as an
important and valued part of their children's lives.'
"What lessons are to be learned from this experience
with Breaking the Silence and Kids & Divorce?
Perhaps the overriding one is that before accepting
programming for the PBS schedule, someone needs to make
a more thorough check on the motives of sponsors.
Breaking the Silence was underwritten by a
grant from the Mary Kay Ash Foundation, an organization
devoted to the laudable goal of stopping violence against
women, especially abusive relationships. The mission
of the organization seemingly drove the original production
in the direction of concluding that family courts are
routinely awarding child custody to abusive fathers.
"I am not suggesting that rigid guidelines be adopted
which preclude advocacy organizations or foundations
from funding public affairs programming on PBS or NPR.
But somewhere there must be a responsibility to check
the editorial thrust of the production against the mission
of the sponsors and to assure that the standards of
fairness and balance are not sacrificed to political
agendas.
"Jerry Richmond of Twin Cities Public TV checked
the carriage reports for Breaking the Silence
and Kids & Divorce and found them nearly equal
at 77 and 78 percent. That's more good news. Kudos to
PBS for making good on its promise and for trusting
a solid production team to do the job with no strings
attached."
I gave my full critique of Breaking the Silence
here, and Dr. Ned Holstein of
Fathers and Families gave his
here. As I pointed out, the show, while good, does
have its weaknesses. As far as entertainment goes, Bode's
description of it "chugging along in a steady, deliberate
manner, as if in a permanent second gear" is apt. On
a brighter note, Bode's comment that "If the film has
a point of view it is that children want and need both
parents and that two-parent involvement after a divorce
is important" is also appropriate.
It was nice to see Bode note that as far as markets
and air time is concerned, the balanced Kids & Divorce
got as much--in fact a tiny bit more--than Breaking
the Silence did. Thanks again to
Fathers and Families, the
American Coalition for Fathers & Children, and the
many thousands of you who participated in our campaign.
Lisa Scott Launches RealFamilyLaw.com
Shared Parenting Advocate/Family Law Attorney
Lisa Scott has launched
www.RealFamilyLaw.com to expose the truth
about what is happening in our family law system.
Lisa, the all-time leader in appearances on
His Side with Glenn Sacks, says that
she was "tired of having her stuff rejected
by elitist bar publications and politically-correct
newspapers" and decided to start her own website.
www.RealFamilyLaw.com
Help for Michigan Dads
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has experience fighting for noncustodial parents
against Michigan's abusive FOC. Her
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for her clients while avoiding the scorched
earth approach to law that leaves families emotionally
and financially devastated.
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Woman Spends Thanksgiving On Billboard
Shared Parenting activist
Teri Stoddard writes about a great protest:
"Shelly Barreras says sometimes you have to do whatever
it takes, in a peaceful way, to get results, especially
when you're dealing with government.
"New Mexico Governor Richardson has apparently reneged
on a promise to help the Barreras family recover $15,000
collected by the state as child support from Steve Barreras,
for a child that never existed.
"At half-past four Thursday morning Barreras climbed
a ladder to her perch above I-40 to hang a large banner.
Emergency vehicles and crews from three television stations
arrived and the roads were closed.
"VIDEO:
Barreras planned on spending four days atop the billboard
at I-40 and University in Albuquerque,
until Clear Channel Outdoor - Global Outdoor Advertising
representatives offered a venue for her issues in exchange
for her descent. She agreed to come down after 10 hours
and 30 minutes, and was not arrested.
"'I didn't just do this for my family,' Barreras
explained, 'I did it for all the families in this country
who are suffering with family law and child support
issues. The whole system needs to be demolished and
rebuilt.'
"'I thought of John Murtari in New York, who's endured
over 100 days without solid food for parents' rights.
His non-violent peaceful protest inspired me to do whatever
I could to bring attention to the issue of family law
reform,' Barreras said, 'We definitely need immediate
Congressional Hearings.'"
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Help for California Divorced Dads
The Divorced Fathers Network helps dads
in Los Angeles, the Bay Area and Santa
Cruz. Local chapters sponsor free weekly
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The Secrets of Happily Married Men
How can a man achieve a long and happy
marriage? If you've been checking out
advice columns or seeing a therapist,
you may have been looking in the wrong
place. Despite all the advances in brain
technology, and all of that we have
learned about developmental psychology--men
and women are given the same advice
about solving problems. But when we
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The Cost of Divorce to BusinessesI've pointed
out on numerous occasions the problems faced by divorced
and divorcing military parents--to learn more, see my
co-authored column
Protect Deployed Parents' Rights (Tucson Citizen,
11/9/06, Trenton Times, 11/11/06, Macon Telegraph,
11/11/06). The military has recognized the way divorce
is hurting its personnel, and has taken some steps to
try to curb divorce within its ranks.
Divorce is also very costly to businesses. I believe
that eventually the business community will be compelled
to fully recognize this, and join in efforts to reduce
the divorce rate and to address the problems within
the family law system which help make divorce so painful
and devastating. Dr. John Curtis has a business background
and is also a former marriage counselor, and he has
some interesting observations on this issue in his book
The Business of Love. Below are some quotes Curtis
has collected from experts about the cost of divorce
to businesses:
"Have you looked at your employee assistance program
statistics lately? You would suddenly find the number
of people who sought assistance in areas that are related
to marriage. Your employee costs are higher today because
of the difficulty your people are having in their marriages."
-- Former Lieutenant Governor John Mutz of Indiana (1981-1989),
President of PSI Energy (1993-1999)
"A family or career does not happen in a vacuum. It's
all interwoven. It's interrelated...The divorce rate
has an impact on the bottom line of every business because
divorce is not an easy thing and whenever a person is
undergoing divorce, that affects their ability to focus
and concentrate in their business...Personal problems
inevitably distract workers and sap them of energy."
-- Dr. Joy Reed Belt - Owner, Oklahoma City Human Resources
Consulting Firm
"...good marriages may buffer couples against the
stress of demanding jobs in which the worker has little
control....You may not be able to get away from the
job stress, but a good marriage soothes people, minimizing
bad effects from the job." -- American Psychosomatic
Society - Study by psychologists Janice Kiecolt-Glaser
and Ronald Glaser of Ohio State University College of
Medicine, Vancouver, B.C.
"You can't expect people to do well in their business
if they've got problems at home...Happy homes means
more productive employees."-- S. Truett Cathy, Founder
of Chick-fil-A which spends millions annually on programs
to help couples enrich their relationships.
"Divorce disrupts the workplace more than drugs or alcohol."
-- The College of Family Life Extension
I've discussed Curtis' work on marriage before--see
Marriages Breaking up over Money.
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Tawny Kitaen in Trouble Again
Some of you may recall the case of former
pitcher Chuck Finley, who was a victim of domestic violence
perpetrated by his then-wife, actress Tawny Kitaen.
Kitaen was arrested in April of 2002
for attacking Finley as he was driving the couple home.
Police officers reported seeing abrasions and scrapes
on Finley's body after Kitaen had allegedly kicked Finley
repeatedly with her high-heeled shoes, grabbed his ear
and twisted it, and put her foot on top of his, forcing
the accelerator to the floor. After Kitaen's arrest,
Finley was granted temporary custody of their two daughters,
then ages nine and three.
Pam Sheek, a 51 year-old nanny who has
cared for the Finley children for six years, made a
sworn declaration shortly afterward stating that Kitaen
has a severe prescription drug addiction and that her
erratic and abusive behavior has often put the children
at risk. She described an incident in March, 2002 when
Kitaen turned on the gas in the gas fireplace log without
lighting it and then called the two children to come
into bed with her to go to sleep. Sheek, suspicious,
entered the room and, smelling the gas, turned off the
fireplace, probably saving the lives of both Kitaen
and her children.
In September of 2003
Kitaen went on the Howard Stern Show and denied
everything, claiming that she was the victim of abuse,
and that she was getting railroaded. I criticized her
for this on
His Side with Glenn Sacks, and sure enough I
got a letter from Kitaen the next week, telling me that
I was wrong, irresponsible, unfair to her, etc.
A little while afterwards
I was amazed but not surprised to see that Inside
Edition did an interview exclusive with Kitaen shortly
after the Stern Show, and in it Kitaen admitted
that she had attacked Finley. Kitaen's letter of
apology to me must have gotten lost in the mail.
Now Kitaen is back in trouble again. According to
the E! Online article
Tawny Kitaen's Cocaine Rap:
"Actress Tawny Kitaen, who was best known for a handful
of '80s-era roles before supposedly clocking hubby Chuck
Finley with her high-heeled shoes, was rung up Tuesday
on a felony drug charge.
"Prosecutors said that the Bachelor Party
bride-to-be is facing one count of possessing a controlled
substance after police found 15 grams of cocaine in
her apartment.
"According to Jim Amormino of the Orange County Sheriff's
Department, deputies showed up at Kitaen's San Juan
Capistrano apartment to perform a 'welfare check' on
her and her two daughters with Finley, Wynter and Raine.
"Police said that Kitaen was not under the influence
of any drugs or alcohol at the time but that the children,
ages 8 and 13, were home when officers arrived and found
the cocaine.
"Kitaen, 45, who's scheduled to be arraigned Dec.
18, is facing up to three years in prison if convicted.
But, she can avoid hard time if she qualifies for a
drug diversion program and enters rehab, O.C. District
Attorney's Office spokeswoman Susan Schroeder said.
"Whitesnake's favorite hood ornament pleaded guilty
to attacking Finley, then a pitcher for the Cleveland
Indians, in 2002 in exchange for the court's dismissal
of two misdemeanor spousal abuse charges. Kitaen agreed
to attend anger management and conflict resolution counseling
and donate $500 to a battered-women's shelter.
"The case wasn't closed until October 2003, however,
when Kitaen issued a written apology for saying in an
interview on The Howard Stern Show that she
had been forced into a guilty plea. The onetime music
video muse also denied having a drug problem, which
Finley had alleged in court documents and Kitaen later
admitted, saying she had developed an addiction to prescription
meds for depression and migraines.
"Finley filed for divorce on Apr. 4, three days after
he accused Kitaen of kicking him with her stiletto boots
and viciously twisting his ear while the couple were
driving to their home in Newport Beach..."
It's against my nature to ever sympathize with false
accusers, and I doubt I'll ever be counted among Kitaen's
supporters. Nevertheless, I certainly don't think she
should go to jail for three years for possessing cocaine.
Similarly, I don't believe we should be locking up hundreds
of thousands of people--mostly minority males--for drug
use, either.
Nobody despises drug abuse more than I, but I also
believe that while our society insists on treating drug
abuse as a criminal justice problem, it is in reality
a public health problem. Many of these celebrity drug
cases are a good example. Kitaen has screwed up her
life with her drug addictions, yet she continues, and
the criminal justice system's typical reaction--"she's
broken the law, let's put her in jail" doesn't begin
to address her real problem.
The Steve Howe and Daryl Strawberry cases are other
examples. Both were immensely talented athletes who
damaged/destroyed their careers because of their addictions.
Logically, all three would do anything to get off of
the stuff. I have to believe that the reason is not
that they don't want to, but that they can't.
I suppose one could argue that locking them up separates
them from their drugs, but I doubt this is true--there
are plenty of drugs in prison. One time I heard a radio
interview with an ex-convict who said that he used to
sneak under the guard tower at his prison, meet his
dealer and do his drugs. I remember thinking "here's
a guy who's locked up in prison, surrounded by huge
cement walls and barbed wire, standing underneath a
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