Mom Blames 13-Year-Old Daughter for Having Sex with Mom's Boyfriend, Abuses Her--No Punishment, Of Course
October 31st, 2007 by Glenn Sacks, MA for Fathers & Families"A woman who had her 13-year-old daughter's genitalia pierced to make it uncomfortable for her to have sex was acquitted of aggravated child abuse on Thursday.
"The girl, now 16, had testified that her mother asked a friend in 2004 to shave the girl's head to make her unattractive to boys and later held her down for the piercing.
"A jury deliberated for about three hours before deciding the mother's actions didn't involve punishment or malicious intent, or cause permanent damage or disfigurement.
"The 39-year-old woman, whose name is being withheld to protect her daughter's identity, could have faced up to 30 years in prison if convicted of the charges."
A few comments about this Associated Press story:
1) The mother abused her child and (brace yourself) got away with it because she's a mother.
2) The mother claimed that the girl agreed to the abuse as part of "rebuilding her mother's trust." A 13-year-old is not in any position to give meaningful consent to such an act, and it's despicable that the mother would try to use this as some sort of excuse.
3) The girl supposedly had sex with the mother's boyfriend, and it seems that the mother abused her in large part because the mother was punishing her for being a rival. The girl said her mother did it to "to make her unattractive."
4) Pardon me for sounding like a feminist, but it's also despicable that the mother seems to be blaming the girl because the mom's boyfriend statutorily raped her. That's not her fault, that's his fault.
5) There's no mention of the girl's dad in the story. Who knows, maybe he's messed up, too. Or maybe not. But tell me, if the dad had custody of the girl, how likely do you think it is that she would be having sex with a 40 year-old man at age 13?
Fla. mother acquitted in piercing case
Associated Press, 10/26/07
NAPLES, Fla. - A woman who had her 13-year-old daughter's genitalia pierced to make it uncomfortable for her to have sex was acquitted of aggravated child abuse on Thursday.
The girl, now 16, had testified that her mother asked a friend in 2004 to shave the girl's head to make her unattractive to boys and later held her down for the piercing.
A jury deliberated for about three hours before deciding the mother's actions didn't involve punishment or malicious intent, or cause permanent damage or disfigurement.
The 39-year-old woman, whose name is being withheld to protect her daughter's identity, could have faced up to 30 years in prison if convicted of the charges.
The girl was not in court for the verdict. Her guardian declined comment.
"She was trying to protect me, but it hurt me," the girl testified earlier this week. "It not only hurt me physically, but it hurt me mentally. ... That's emotionally scarring. That's physical abuse."
Prosecutors said the mother called on a friend to shave the girl's head and do the piercing after realizing that she had been having sex, including with the mother's boyfriend.
Defense attorneys told jurors that the mother had trouble with her rebellious daughter and that the girl agreed to the piercing to help rebuild her mother's trust.
Child welfare officials were called after the girl became infected from the piercing.
Tammy Meredith, 43, who did the piercing in her home, was sentenced to a year in jail for her role. An arrest warrant has been issued for the mother's boyfriend on allegations he had sex with the girl.
Thanks to David, a reader, for sending it to me.
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October 31st, 2007 at 12:52 am
When will the insanity end? Jury of peers? This republic is totally moribund.
October 31st, 2007 at 1:27 am
And of course they're going after the boyfriend for statutory rape. Wonderful.
So is she responsible for her actions (being punished for them by her mother) or isn't she? (boyfriend being prosecuted)
October 31st, 2007 at 1:52 am
Hey Glenn,
I figured you would see this piece.. its horrendous, how blind or stupid or pervrted are these juries!
The same day this news came out a young boy of 7 yrs "committed suicide" over bad grades. The schools response was to try and minimze impact on other kids by sending letters to their parents that the kids may come home sad and helping them understand the concept of death (not suicide). I think this is a perfect example of trivilization of boys' issues.
To pour salt in the wound, the little boy's tragic death seems as being treated as a nuisance to be dealt with, rather than a tragedy. Note that FOXnews.com had the time to put a cheerleader tackle online, but this little boy was not apparently as news worthy.
October 31st, 2007 at 8:20 am
pankaj Says:
October 31st, 2007 at 1:52 am
Note that FOXnews.com had the time to put a cheerleader tackle online, but this little boy was not apparently as news worthy.
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Worst than that SHE stepped BEHIND the banner that they break through and HE was asked on national television if HE apologized to HER for HIM being where HE was supposed to be and HER being where SHE was not supposed to be…
It was also made mention that it took him until after the game to apologize…also aired by CNN Headline News
October 31st, 2007 at 9:12 am
"The 39-year-old woman, whose name is being withheld to protect her daughter's identity..."
What the fuck? If a man is even accused of raping, murdering, or torturing someone (especially a female) his name and picture are splashed all over every television and newspaper in America. If a woman is accused of doing the same thing her identity is withheld to protect the victim?
Typical.
October 31st, 2007 at 9:26 am
Mike Hunt Says:
October 31st, 2007 at 9:12 am
If a man is even accused of ...
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Great point...when you said that I though of all the times I heard the term "alleged"
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October 31st, 2007 at 9:35 am
Glenn said: But tell me, if the dad had custody of the girl, how likely do you think it is that she would be having sex with a 40 year-old man at age 13?
This is not a matter of "feminism". I think that the mother, her friend and her boyfried, are all a bunch of abusive perverts. However, that said, I wouldn't be surprised in this particular case, that if "Dad" had custody, he'd probably be one having sex with the daughter himself and/or using her for child porn...
October 31st, 2007 at 11:09 am
"The 39-year-old woman, whose name is being withheld to protect her daughter's identity..."
What the fuck? If a man is even accused of raping, murdering, or torturing someone (especially a female) his name and picture are splashed all over every television and newspaper in America. If a woman is accused of doing the same thing her identity is withheld to protect the victim?
Typical.
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My first post should have read:
'If a woman is convicted of doing the same thing her identity is withheld to protect the victim?' Because this woman wasn't accused of a crime; she was convicted of one.
October 31st, 2007 at 11:23 am
It should be stories like these that define the common ground between the feminists and the shared parent activists. If a group chooses to defend anyone mentioned in this article, ( with the exception of the child ) they should be given the microphone and allowed to spot off and demonstrate to everyone their extreme position.
Very disturbing post Glenn.
Obviously this story should become an Adam Corolla Florida or Germany question.
October 31st, 2007 at 11:46 am
Very few of these stories ever reach the media. Women control, to a large extent, what is broadcast to the public. This case is just a sample of the abuse being suffered in single mother homes.
That’s what makes the “best interests of children” pretense so egregious. When will enough men have the courage to stop this insanity? Don’t be so quick to blame women and feminism for this tragedy. Men have the power to stop this and “choose” to do little or nothing but “talk”.
Kevin Merck
October 31st, 2007 at 12:30 pm
"This is not a matter of "feminism". I think that the mother, her friend and her boyfried, are all a bunch of abusive perverts. However, that said, I wouldn't be surprised in this particular case, that if "Dad" had custody, he'd probably be one having sex with the daughter himself and/or using her for child porn..."
Just because the mother is abusive and the boyfriend is irresponsible, you can't really assume that the dad is as well. However, both the mother and the boyfriend should be put in jail. Even is the sex was consensual, it's his duty as the adult to say NO.
October 31st, 2007 at 1:12 pm
# Idiotssuk Says: I wouldn't be surprised in this particular case, that if "Dad" had custody, he'd probably be one having sex with the daughter himself and/or using her for child porn...
A father who cares for a child when they're an infant is amongst the least likely to sexually abuse that child. Step-fathers, Mom's boyfriend, and just about every other extended family member is more likely to do so than the father.
You wouldn't know that, as you're not listening.
October 31st, 2007 at 3:45 pm
"Step-fathers, Mom's boyfriend, and just about every other extended family member is more likely to do so than the father."
And moms initiate 70% of divorces in order to bring this hazard into their homes.
Best interests of the child, my ass.
October 31st, 2007 at 4:49 pm
... When the next generation of males start to flex their political muscles!!
...The lace curtain will come down!!
October 31st, 2007 at 11:29 pm
@Chris_C According to the Canadians Department of Justice - Sexual Abuse and Exploitation of Children and Youth Fact Sheet , "Alleged perpetrators who were related to the victim were equally likely to be a biological father or step-father and less likely to be the child's biological mother or a foster or adoptive parent."
November 1st, 2007 at 6:39 am
Idiot -
You're going to quote Canadian 'fact' sheets in support of your position?
Considering how thoroughly 'Feminized' the Canadian legislature is, I wouldn't accept their statistics for anything more serious than predicting the number of red skittles you'd find in an average packet.
November 1st, 2007 at 8:51 am
Kevin Merck Says:
October 31st, 2007 at 11:46 am
That’s what makes the “best interests of children” pretense so egregious. When will enough men have the courage to stop this insanity? Don’t be so quick to blame women and feminism for this tragedy. Men have the power to stop this and “choose” to do little or nothing but “talk”.
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What exactly is your suggestion to have men muster the courage and stop this insanity? As I see it is not a matter of courage because no matter what is done in this situation it will continue to happen. Let us face the reality it was illegal for the 40yo boyfriend to sleep with the 13yo daughter and that did not stop it... The father cannot be there 24\7\365, so that will not work. No one and I mean no one can change anyone else so that does not work... I would like to know what you have in mind to change this besides stand up and be heard because that as I see it is the best that we can do for now...unfortunately and regrettably.
November 1st, 2007 at 8:55 am
Tex Says:
October 31st, 2007 at 3:45 pm
And moms initiate 70% of divorces in order to bring this hazard into their homes.
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One more interesting bit is the fact that 1/3 of all women on death row are there because of being convicted of killing their child(ren) We TV network “Women on Death Row.”
November 1st, 2007 at 10:42 am
# Idiotssuk Says:
October 31st, 2007 at 11:29 pm
@Chris_C According to the Canadians Department of Justice - Sexual Abuse and Exploitation of Children and Youth Fact Sheet , "Alleged perpetrators who were related to the victim were equally likely to be a biological father or step-father and less likely to be the child's biological mother or a foster or adoptive parent."
Sure, when you lump fathers in with step-fathers. You've read 'How to lie with Statistics', yes? You can sneak a low probability outcome (fathers) into a high-probability outcome (step-fathers) and obscure one result with the other. You've also thrown in 'alleged perpetrators', which means every spurious claim of child abuse from a custody battle is in that number.
The biological mother is much more likely to accused or charged with neglect or non-sexual child abuse, giving them a pass on the sexual abuse and skewing the results for the grouping of 'biological mother + foster + adoptive parent'.
Research cited in this blog shows that the incest taboo is formed when close relations are present and perform care for infants. A father who cared for his child as an infant is the least likely sexual abuser. Step-fathers and Mom's Boyfriend are the high risk groups, as they are neither related nor likely to have given care while the child was an infant.
November 1st, 2007 at 1:12 pm
@Chris_C According to the Canadians Department of Justice - Sexual Abuse and Exploitation of Children and Youth Fact Sheet , "Alleged perpetrators who were related to the victim were equally likely to be a biological father or step-father and less likely to be the child's biological mother or a foster or adoptive parent."
Do you have a link to the site where you found this?
November 1st, 2007 at 5:30 pm
@Callum,
I am the one who found the link, but couldn't post it because it apparently got caught in the spam filter. Just do a google search and I am sure you will get to it. You can also find similar information from the U.S.. This kind of information is available, but you jhave to have to open your eyes and stop shutting out the facts that you don't want to hear, or that don't jive with the dishonest anti-feminist propaganda, half-truths and outright misinformation that is frequently cited at boards like this.
November 2nd, 2007 at 1:31 am
Idiotssuk,
I went through the report, the claim made in the report is highly erroneous. The refernce cited does NOT make any reference to 'father'. Moreover the word 'parent' appears twice but no mention of distribution of perp's genders.
Interesting that you would have people believe something not supported by the cited research and then insinuate that anti-feminists are dishonest for not believing things on face value.
November 2nd, 2007 at 3:10 pm
A FEMALE teacher just took off to Mexico with her 13 year old student (believed to have sexual realations)
Watch the news for developements this is breaking right now
November 5th, 2007 at 11:31 am
And we wonder why our society is going to hell in a handbasket? Mother & "boyfriend" should be put underneath the jail for what they did to that child;their chickens will come home to roost soon!